advice on how to support "the wait"

A friend that we met through adoption (one of the first families we got together with to talk to before applying to our agency) linked this blog post on Facebook recently.  I love it and even though some of the content leans toward international adoption, I still think that it's extremely relevant.  Yes we have made it through #3 so far, but we still have a little of #1, will always need #2, and are right now smack dab in the middle of the struggle of #4. 

After reading the introduction, I am extremely grateful for all of you, our family and friends, who have supported us thus far in every way possible.  I never dreamed we would lose loved ones throughout this process and thankfully we haven't, but I still recommend giving this blog post a read as we muddle our way through "the wait."

A favorite line from section #4: "Remember the way you felt when you heard your child's heartbeat for the very first time, or witnessed the kicks and wiggles on an ultrasound machine?  That overwhelming desire to protect, and nurture your child with every fiber of your being before you had even physically met her?  It's the exact same thing.  But we don't have the privilege of watching our bellies expand and feeling the reassuring wriggling inside of us.  We just have this stretched out heart.....We don't have the privilege of knowing that our wait will be just nine months - a definite ending point when we will see our child's face.  Instead our timetable is very much indefinite, we get no guarantee of when he will arrive, and that is hard.  It is so hard."

We applied to our agency and began the process with them right away in March.  We have passed the 9 month mark from that point.  We became a waiting family at the end of July.  It's been 6 months.  So yes, sometimes this difference in the length of time compared to a pregnancy is hard for me.

Thanks for loving, for supporting, for being there for us.  This journey may be very long, so thank you in advance for still asking and checking in, even if we are learning to love "the wait" years from now (but hopefully we aren't...only God knows)!